Building Resilience in Kids – Option B

As a staff we are reading “Option B” by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant. Sheryl is the author of the fabulous leadership book for women called “Lean In”.

I thought this book (Option B – Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy) might be a great addition to our caring skills especially after 5 of our amazing Phoenix Staff lost a parent this year. It has been a tough year for many of our families too! Some have had food insecurity, facing disease and job loss. So what can we do to help each other and our students cope better with the ups and down of life?

Sheryl offers this advice for building resiliency. We need to teach kids and remember for ourselves that:

Building Resilience

  1. You always have some control over your situation.
  2. You will  learn from your mistakes.
  3. You matter and make a difference.
  4. You have real strengths you can rely on & share with others.

What Sandberg learned, with the help of psychologist Adam Grant, was that there are three myths people cling to that make it harder to spring back from adversity. The first is that they’re somehow responsible for what happened to them. The second is that sadness must carpet their lives from wall to wall. And the third is that they will never feel any better. Sandberg calls these mistakes the three p’s: thinking about adversity as personal, pervasive and permanent.

Children are often more resilience in the face of trauma because have the ability to feel sadness moment and then go and play the next. They understand that sadness does not need to accompany them everywhere and they also know that things change.

So when life is not perfect and Option A is not available, make sure you kick the tar out of Option B.

RECOMMENDED READING! – Option B – Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

Author: Diana Stinn

Co-Founder of Phoenix